So you’ve decided the break up wasn’t right, that you should still be together, and that you want your ex-partner back. Understandable, break ups happen for all sorts of reasons, and are not always the right thing to do. But the instinctive reaction to fall apart, or start begging, acting up or being in constant contact is a hard one to avoid. But if you want your ex back it is an important step. Here we look at why you must stay strong emotionally if you want your ex back.

1. Don’t initiate the contact

A hard one to do when you are longing to talk to and see them again but it is important that they don’t see you as chasing them. Stay strong, don’t call them. That’s not to say don’t talk to them when and if they get in touch, just let them come to you rather than the other way around.

Think about it form their point of view. Are they more interested in talking to someone who is contacting them 5 times a day, or will they start wondering about you and what you are doing when you are not calling them? Let them start thinking and wondering about you by keeping yourself from calling them.

2. Stay civil

If and when they do get in contact you have to have them remember why being with you was better than being with most of the rude people in the world. Show you are capable of being emotionally strong and that your world continues without them.

By keeping yourself friendly and civil you remind them what sort of person you are, and how you can rise above petty instincts.

3. The importance of appearing strong emotionally

Most of the time breakups have a ‘winner’ and a ‘loser’ because one or the other starts breaking down without the partner. Allow yourself to be the person who is seen as the stronger person. They will start wondering if they did the right thing when they see how you can keep looking forward, not backwards.

If they see someone who has their life together they are going to be far more likely to want to look at getting back together than if you are an emotional mess whose life is falling apart.

So as you can see staying strong emotionally is something that will show your ex that you are the sort of person they should be reconsidering. They will wonder what you are doing and start thinking about you in a different light. They will get back in touch.

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